Description
Narcissism is a personality disorder that is essentially a by-product of deeply rooted issues from childhood and an over-inflated ego that pursues evil desires at the expense of one’s faith, morals and the feelings of others. For years, psychologists, sociologists and mental health experts have dived deeply into the phenomena of narcissistic behaviour, providing a great scope of knowledge from their extensive studies. Some of these observations come from a Christian perspective, but within the context of Islamic psychology, knowledge about where narcissism comes from is scarce. It is important to understand why narcissism is becoming more prevalent among Muslims, when in fact there are teachings in Islam that guide us on how to identify, avoid, deal with and overcome it.
Patriarchal societies are primarily associated with men who have narcissistic tendencies, however more and more women are displaying similar behaviours in their relationships too. If you are one of the many people who have come into contact with Muslim narcissists, you will know how difficult it is to maintain relationships with them. As a British Muslim sociologist and counsellor, I often see that many men, women and children have been suffering for years as a result of other Muslims distorting the meaning of various teachings from The Qur’an and Hadiths into justifications for their religious and spiritual abuse and oppression. There are many detrimental consequences for this, the major one being the depletion of faith from the hearts of those who associate problematic attitudes and characteristics with Islamic teachings, due to a lack of awareness of narcissism.
In this book, I will share with you what the Islamic faith tells us about narcissism and where it comes from, how people develop this disorder, how to recognize and avoid Muslim narcissists and how to help and deal with them, enabling you to move on from a toxic situation. I will give you fascinating insights as to why you attract them and how to break the cycle of being a victim, so you can attract healthy people and relationships into your lives. This book will also serve as an eye-opener for those who possess strong narcissistic traits for them to see the negative long-term impact their behaviour has not just on the lives of others and the community, but on their own lives if left unaddressed. I truly believe when people face their demons and heal from their traumas, our Muslim homes and communities will be healed and saved too.
“Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.”
(Al-Qur’an, Al-Ra’d: 11)
This book opened my eyes as an empath and propelled me to become a supernova empath. This book changed my life for the better and taught me to navigate relationships with wisdom.
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I purchased this book after attending an in person event Dr Mona did in 2022. This book explores narcissism from the lens of Islamic diseases of the heart and the ego. She has made this connection through her years of lived experience, research and working with clients. This book explains narcissism, codependency and its causes in depth. If you read this book along with listening to her podcasts you will continue to increase your knowledge on this topic.
Highly recommend this book as essential reading for everyone.
In the Muslims Narcissist, Dr. Mona Alyedreessy dives deep into the subject of Narcissism from Islamic perspective. Unlike the traditional Western narrative, Dr. Alyedreessy explains the metaphysical factors that build a narcissistic personality. She backs her theory by evidences from the Quran and Sunna. Dr. Alyedreessy draws similarities between universally agreed upon narcissistic characteristics and negative qualities mentioned in the Quran. These analyses shows that Narcissism should not only be explained by social and biological factors. Rather, there seem to be additional deeper reasons related to the Qraeen, nafs, and human willingness to resist committing bad behaviors.Other important subjects in the book include codependency, raising children with narcissistic spouses, and treatment of narcissistic parents and relatives.
This books is the first of its kind in forming a coherent understanding of Narcissism from an Islamic view point. Dr. Alyedreessy did a phenomenal job in attempting to understand the toxic narcissistic personality in a unique holistic approach. The book contains practical steps to help both narcissists and narcissistic victims to heal and become better. I highly recommend this book for anyone who is dealing with a narcissists or exhibits narcissistic trait.
This book is very beneficial, I highly it recommend for anyone who wants to learn about certain relationship dynamics from an Islamic perspective.