Description
This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes.
Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book.
For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process.
Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers.
Turn to this guide to help you:
Predict what your spouse may do or say in court
Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking
Choose a lawyer who understands your case
Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you
If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.
I’m rec for all my clients in this position. It’s helpful, easy to grasp, and loaded with great tips.
I read this book in 2 days. Just kinda got sucked in. It’s an easy read and the information is spot on!!! Being years into this high conflict case I am fairly familiar with this dramatic (high conflict blamer personality) act! I only with I had known this information before I began the process. If you are starting your separation or at the end this is a very valuable guide. It would have been helpful to k ow before hand and avoided so much duress and anxiety. Now I am better focused and much more knowledgable about the final steps! And I am so much calmer, organized, focused and ready. Excellent read! I highly recommend to anyone in this kind of situation regardless of the phase you find yourself.
Side note, it’s kind of telling how “textbook”these characters behave!
First book I’ve read by Bill Eddy and wow! Great information! I found myself underlining and making many notes in the text and it’s already helped me deal with narcissistic behavior in an ex that I co-parent with. Eddy really understands these people and how best to deal with them. If you know, you know. Good luck!
Gradebook park with a lot of helpful information. I learned a lot
Great advice. Buy this book BEFORE you try to separate. (It’s still helpful after but I wish I had it before.) Everything this books says your ex will do, is right on. Things a normal person would never dream of. If nothing else, it is validation if you are up against on of the difficult personalities.