Description
Pathological mind games. Covert and overt put-downs. Triangulation. Gaslighting. Projection. These are the manipulative tactics survivors of malignant narcissists are unfortunately all too familiar with. As victims of silent crimes where the perpetrators are rarely held accountable, survivors of narcissistic abuse have lived in a war zone of epic proportions, enduring an abuse cycle of love-bombing and devaluation—psychological violence on steroids. From how to heal our addiction to the narcissist to how to recognize a covert narcissist, Shahida Arabi’s articles on narcissistic abuse have gained renown as some of the most accurate and in-depth depictions of this terrifying trauma, resonating with millions of survivors all over the world and receiving endorsements from numerous mental health professionals. In this essay compilation, readers can enjoy some of her most popular articles as well as new thought pieces on narcissistic abuse: what therapists have to say about malignant narcissists and how children of narcissistic parents can become trapped in the trauma repetition cycle. Survivors are offered new insights on what it means to be both a survivor and a thriver of covert manipulation and trauma. POWER teaches us that it is important to not only understand the tactics of toxic personalities but also to recognize and combat the effects of narcissistic abuse; it guides the survivor to learning, growing, healing and most importantly of all—owning their agency to rebuild their lives and transform their powerlessness into victory.
If you are trying to understand narcissism in general from various aspects this is a good book. It explains everything in depth from different point of views and is extremely informative. A great resource for NPD abuse survivors and someone just wanted to understand.
I recommend this book for anyone who has been in a relationship with an abusive narcissist. Tremendous help in my recovery.
I enjoyed the first half of the book very much. I hadn’t realized the kind of relationship I’m in. This book helped me understand what’s been happening to me and my children at the hands of the man I chose to marry. Although I am still searching for the footage to leave, I now feel like I have a decent roadmap for handling the agreement.
The latter chapters get very repetitive and drag on a bit.
If you want a book that tells the story and keeps you from making those bad decisions, this is the one. It saved me from a second narc relationship and then I read the last chapter on INFJs. It was a real eye opener for me. I draw them like flies to honey. I know better now and have healed a great deal of my wounds. Brava
You can feel the author’s journey of self love.
I read this book in increments. It’s like I was already on a healing journey.
At any stage of your narcissistic abuse this is a must read.